Men as Fathers

In other words, that father is a role that’s so big, so important but because it’s so big, it’s doomed to disappoint other people. How on earth can you possibly live up to the title father. Maybe your dad was a horrible dad. Maybe he never grew out of being a man-ager, and although he had the right to live his life the problem is that it wrecked everyone else’s around him including yours. And because of that, it seems like the only solution is for you to get back at him by never offering forgiveness. Here’s the thing that you have every right to do that. The problem is that if you don’t transform your pain you will be certain to transmit it. That in other words, if you don’t deal with the hand that God has given you, and if you don’t deal with your own baggage and hurt, then you’ll just end up passing it off to your own kid. And so do you know what the answer is? The answer is for you to make peace with your father. 

Prov 19:11 - A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense.